· On dating sites, should my profile be long or short? February 7, AM Subscribe. DatingSiteFilter: One thing that annoys me on dating sites is profiles that are very Online dating is the new normal. According to Statistic Brain, of the 54 million single people in the U.S., 49 million of them have tried online dating. So, if you’re thinking about joining, 4. Being too generic. “I like to have fun.”. “I love doing things with my friends.”. “I’m a great person.”. These are all obnoxiously generic statements that should be left out of your online · One of the biggest oh-no-nos of online dating is lying about or exaggerating your appearance and characteristics. Photos that are more than five years old shouldn’t be Online dating is a game. And like every game, it has its own rules and strategies you can deploy. If you know the secrets of the play, you are bound to be successful. One topic that raises the ... read more
The dating site makes it awfully easy to exclude people on the basis of trivial things, but there's no chemistry on a website. I've made the mistake of pushing people away online, only to meet them in the offline world and find them totally intriguing. And finally, many women expect you to chase them so the profile is your calling card rather than an invitation to contact you.
posted by skylar at AM on February 7, Hmm, I wish you'd posted the actual ad so we could critique it:- But even that might not help you much.
I might sit here thinking, hey, I'd respond to that guy, but if I weren't the type of person you wanted, how much would that mean.
But here goes. Six hundred words is a bit lengthy, but there's also no need to go with two or three sentences. I'm inclined to think it's a way of pre-screening - you'll meet fewer women, but those you do meet will be of a higher quality. They'll know what a libertarian is, and they won't be hoping you're a churchy type. I do something similar in my ad - it's lengthy, and I try to give the lads a sense of what I am like and what I want.
I know that when I read someone's profile, that's what I find the most helpful. However, since I don't often find that, it's not a prerequisite. So I will answer briefly worded profiles as long as what IS there is well-written and appealing in tone, and I like the picture.
I think the only really bad qualities in a profile are illiteracy and a jerkass tone. And if the guy's picture is only borderline attractive to me but he has a great, meaty profile, it can turn my decision in his favour. posted by orange swan at AM on February 7, Also keep in mind that your profile or for that matter, any introduction to a woman isn't simply about your "specs" -- it isn't really just an opportunity to describe yourself.
It's an opportunity to help someone feel something about you -- and tell them how they might feel with you. Don't be merely cerebral and descriptive. Don't just talk about yourself and your interests. Talk about stories and possibilities. posted by weston at AM on February 7, It's not the profile's word-count, it's whether it says anything. I've seen plenty of profiles, long and short, that were 1 nothing but clichés, 2 an unrealistic shopping list or 3 a defensive rant against previous responses.
In none of these cases is anything revealed about the person posting the ad, and that's telling. But you can reveal a lot about yourself in a sentence. Conversely, a word ad that mentions your political philosophy -- and presumably other things -- may reveal you to be a bit of a blowhard, which is not necessarily how you want to market yourself.
Providing plenty of information to rule out bad fits is not a bad strategy -- beats the "long walks on the beach" approach -- but you want to make sure that that is in fact what you're doing. And you will get much fewer responses -- it's like applying for jobs and getting two interviews, or applying for 10 jobs and getting two interviews: the selection process is at a different stage.
Remember, you're essentially providing an answer to the unspoken question, "Why should I bother responding to your ad?
It isn't easy: few people have enough self-knowledge to do a truly good one. posted by mcwetboy at AM on February 7, Oh, anon, tell you what. If you want, send me the text from your profile using some generic hotmail address and editing out revealing details if you want to stay anonymous and perhaps I can make some useful suggestions.
I'm a professional editor and a 31 year old single woman , so perhaps I can be of some assistance. I swear I won't Canadianize your spelling:- My email address is on my user page. Am I not getting any contacts because women You're not getting any contacts because you're the man and you have to be the one to make contact. It ain't right, but that's how it usually goes.
Short, long, doesn't matter. Be yourself with emphasis on the upside and contact every woman you're remotely interested in. Some will reply. You'll meet some of those. You'll like a couple of those. And if you're lucky, one of those will like you back.
posted by callmejay at AM on February 7, Cut the profile to words, and send the rest of the info divided between two or three emails, once you've started a conversation. posted by anapestic at AM on February 7, Girl profiles always get more hits. And anon, an atheist libertarian? That's hot in my book.
My personal profile -- feel free to steal it, I've got more boys than I could ever use -- is at personals. com, username littlepopquiz. Check it out. Sometimes a creative conceit can go a long way. That particular personal ad actually led to my meeting a few celebrities who had been browsing them for fun and actually liked mine. posted by u. owen at AM on February 7, Anon: You do have a picture on your profile, right? A picture speaks a thousand words, you know. Get a clear full-body picture of yourself and only you in your favorite environment.
Add 8 to 10 lines of text. Anecdotes: 1 My best friend is a beautiful yo woman who hangs out on LavaLife. She receives well over a dozen introductions each day.
First, if she doesn't like the guy's picture, she deletes him. Second, if his profile doesn't capture her interest between sips of coffee, she deletes him.
eHarmony strictly matches people to their personality profiles and their preferences. All three were each the perfect vision of myself if I were female. Why is it important to say you are an atheist libertarian. IOW, you don't go to church and you are politically MOR. Your online dating profile is your chance to showcase who you are to other potential singles. That guide will get you completely squared away with what needs to go in your profile.
Your headline is the first thing that anyone looking at your online dating profile is going to see. The guide we linked above in the intro is FANTASTIC for walking you through how to come up with an awesome headline. There are even some examples that you can take word for word or tweak a little bit to be perfect for you. The ability to commit and follow through…not being lazy…What do these two things have in common? They are traits that most people are looking for in someone they want to date.
Take the time to finish your profile and put answers that are meaningful and show that you put a little thought into it. People have to be able to see what you look like when it comes to online dating. The point of online dating is to try and mimic what you get in person, but deliver it online so that you can meet more people than you normally would be able to. How many pictures is good? What makes these quality pictures? Your pictures need to be current within the last year—ideally the last six months , clear not taken with a terrible camera , and clearly show your face and your body.
What does upset people, though, is when they think they are talking to one person that looks a certain way only to find out that those pictures were being deceitful. These are all obnoxiously generic statements that should be left out of your online dating profile or expanded upon.
Okay this one just sounds conceited and needs to be scrapped from your dating profile altogether. You see how by just going a little further you were able to tell someone so much more about yourself.
Stand out a little by putting some detail into your dating profile. A little will go a long way. But, you need to understand the difference between wants and needs. These are most likely deal breakers and totally fine to put on your dating profile. For example, many people say in their profiles they like to travel. Your online professional profiles will also help you connect with contacts who can expedite your job search and assist you with moving up the career ladder.
Here are some of the websites where you should create an online profile. Do be sure to actively manage your profiles so they are up-to-date. So if we apply this to your online dating profile, then… You never want to try too hard. That simply turns you into a silly little man that invests too much. A stinky tryhard. A tryhard is someone that tries too hard to be liked. What should I write in my dating profile? Home Other What should I write in my dating profile?
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Home » How Often Should You Update Your Online Dating Profile? You just discovered your favorite color is actually royal blue and not regular blue. Time to update your online dating profile? You just changed religions, adopted two children, and moved 80 miles away. While this may seem like an exaggerated example because it is , we wanted to bring your attention to a question that we get asked a lot. How often should you be updating your online dating profile?
You never know who might be reading your posts these days on the web. The question is a good one, though. Other singles use that information to draw conclusions about whether or not they think you two would be a good and compatible match.
On top of that, online dating sites use complex algorithms to calculate potential matches for you. Part of what you pay for with the top online dating sites is their help in pointing you in the right direction of great matches for you. These systems use your profile information to try and gauge what you will and will not like. Again, if the information being fed into the machine is wrong, then the information coming out of the machine is going to be wrong too. Keeping your information current is the key to having better success dating online.
Here are some general rules about what information you should update and how quickly you should update it. Anything that is a deal breaker needs to be updated immediately. Fix your deal breaker information ASAP always. Anything that is a major life changing event that would affect someone who would date you needs to be changed quickly as well. If you adopt a child, though, that is something that will affect your dating life and needs to be changed very quickly as well.
We all change hobbies and what we enjoy doing all the time. Most of us also reflect this information on our dating profiles.
While this is not pressing, you should update this periodically when you have the chance. You should be updating your profile pictures every couple months at the very least. Whether you change your look or not, you should update your pictures to new and current ones at least every two months. Anything longer and you are borderline deceiving the other singles on the sites. If you have a drastic change to your look, you should get your photos updated immediately.
There is nothing wrong with changing your look, but certain people are going to be fans of it and certain are not. The takeaway here is that you should update your profile as often as is necessary without becoming obsessive. Deal breakers and major life changing events should be changed as soon as possible. Hobbies and other smaller details should be changed when convenient. Profile pictures should be updated at least every two months and immediately if you make any drastic changes to your look.
Online dating should never feel like a chore, but you should commit to the process and give it a chance to work by keeping your profile up to date.
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